When Your Kid Hates School - さんだーさんだ！（ブログ版）

↑こちらのポッドキャストを、先日書いた↓こちらの文字起こしアプリで起こしてみた。
【英語上級者向け】英語ポッドキャストを文字起こし＆要約＆単語抽出【ChatGPTさまさま】 - さんだーさんだ！（ブログ版）

長いので、主な注意点を最初に🙏（GPT-4 APIの使用でだいぶよくなったと思いますが…）

[mm:ss]というタイムスタンプは、入っているところと入っていないところがあるかも。
「-Japan（日本）」「-Barak Obama（バラク・オバマ）」があるかも。単語帳作成のためのプロンプト中に例として挙げたものが紛れ込んでいる可能性があります。
proofreadについてなど、ChatGPTへのプロンプトを本文と誤認している場合もあるかも。
その他にも日本語訳が抜けているなど不完全な部分は多々あるかと思いますが、基本的にはChatGPTの限界だと思ってご了承ください。。
誤訳や不完全な文字起こしがあったとしても、なんの責任も負えませんので、ご自身で確かめながらご利用ください。

Sarah Rosenmuth, welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. I'm your host, Sarah Rosensweet, mom of three young people, Peaceful Parenting Coach, and your cheerleader and guide on all things parenting. Each week, we'll cover the tools, strategies, and support you need to end the yelling and power struggles and encourage your kids to listen and cooperate so that you can enjoy your family time. I'm happy to say, we have a great relationship with our three kids. The teen years have been easy and joyful, not because we're special unicorns, but because my kids were raised with peaceful parenting. I've also helped so many parents just like you stop struggling and enjoy their kids again. I'm excited to be here with you today and bring you the insight and information you need to make your parenting journey a little more peaceful. Let's dive into this week's conversation.
Hey y'all, welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's episode is a listener question, and this question is from a listener whose eight-year-old daughter hates school, and I know some parts of the country,
[1:00]
you're going back to school now. In my neck of the woods, it's not for a few weeks, but we are all getting ready to start that season again, so I thought that this would be a good question to answer. If you have a question for me, you can either find a place to leave the question on my website under the podcast tab that SaraHZ.com slash podcast, or you can find that in the show notes and you can leave me a question. Let's listen to this mama's question first.
"Good morning. How can I encourage my daughter? She's in Grade 3. She's eight years old. She hates school. She would do anything, even sacrifice, a special outing to get out of going to school. She doesn't see the point of going to school, says it's too easy, boring, a waste of time. She'd rather be home with me all day. Being a solo mama, I don't find homeschooling an option. Teachers tell me she gets along with everyone that's great in school, and she is very smart. And school is a breeze for her.
[2:02]
I almost have to force her onto the bus in the morning. Have to peel her little fingers off mine. Or most times, she just storms back in the house angry, not wanting to go back to school. I'm tired of this morning routine. What can I do to help her?"
Oh man, I just can hear in your voice, listener, how hard this is for you and how terrible you feel for your daughter, and I just like sending so many hugs out to you. It's such a hard position to be in when you see your child suffering and struggling. So I'm so glad that you left me this message and let's see what we can do. I also want to answer your question not just the things that you've brought up in your question, but for anyone whose child hates school. Let's try to see if we can get to the bottom of what's going on for your daughter and also for any other listeners who might be dealing with a kiddo who doesn't like school. So the first thing we really want to do here is we want to troubleshoot. We want
[3:02]
to try and figure out why your child hates school. You said that your daughter says that it's too easy and it's boring and we're going to get to that, but you know there's kind of a checklist that we can go through the reasons that I see in my work and what the research tells us about kids and why they don't want to go to school.
One thing that you want to look at pretty carefully, and I don't think this is the case in your case, but it might be for some of our other members of our community, is your child struggling in school? Do they have any undiagnosed learning disabilities, processing speed possibly, dyslexia, anything like that that could be making learning challenging for them and making them feel like a failure? And of course, who wants to go someplace every day where they feel like a failure? So, I would really look at, you know, if they're having any academic troubles, and that's something that you can talk to the teachers about, maybe their teachers from past years. This is just something that you want to get on board with the teacher and really discuss with them
[4:06]
if there may be any academic troubles going on. Also, sort of similarly to that, is it possible they have any undiagnosed neurodivergence? Maybe they have ADHD and that makes learning difficult because they can't focus. Maybe they have ADHD and that makes learning difficult because they can't sit still in order to focus and learn. So there could be different things that could be contributing to making the learning atmosphere difficult for them, which of course would make them not want to go to school, so that's the first thing I would look at.
Another thing that I would look at is. Are they having any social problems? That could be maybe they don't feel like they fit in, maybe they don't have any friends or maybe they're being bullied. And again why would you want to go to a place where you felt lonely every day and you know somebody was being mean to you. So talk to your child and I would not stop at talking to your child and again teachers, I hope you don't mind that I'm asking you to be an ally here, but I would talk to your
[5:08]
child's teacher and ask them if they seem to have friends. If they are liked. And listener, you who called into me, you said that the teachers say that your daughter is liked by people and that she gets along with everyone. So it's wonderful that you've already taken that step and talked to your child's teachers about how she seems at school. For her, it doesn't seem like an issue that social problems are happening. Although, just because she gets along with everyone you may find out, "Does she have friends? Does she have friends that she looks forward to seeing at school?" I know that two of my kids really love the social part of school. That was enough to get them there. They really liked the social aspect. Even though the teacher said that she gets along with everyone, I would maybe dig a little bit deeper and just see maybe she gets along but she doesn't have a friend, a close friend. Maybe there's something you can look at there. Maybe she might get along with everyone, but there could be one person who's not being kind to her. So, I would look at that social arena,
[6:10]
cause you know, who wants to go someplace where they're not enjoying themselves, even a little bit.
I would also look at, and for some people, I know that you don't have a choice of schools. Some people do. So I'm going to mention this, is the school a good fit for your child? There may be kids that are, you know, more active and the school doesn't have a lot of opportunities for them to move their bodies, or there may be a school that's really, really seriously academic focused and high pressure and that's not a great fit for your child. So I would look at the school if there's any choice. I would look at, "Is the school a good fit for my child?" Possibly, you could change schools if it's not a good fit.
One thing you specifically said, listener, was that your daughter complains that school is too easy. And while I wouldn't say that a kid who's bright and finds work too easy exactly falls into the category of having an academic struggle. I do believe in terms of equity
[7:14]
that kids who are at either end of the spectrum; those who are more academically gifted or those who have some struggles academically. Each of them deserves to have their needs met. And I know that's tough and teachers do the best they can. And I'm not saying that, you know, the teacher is not doing a good job. But it's possible that the grade three curriculum is just too easy for your daughter. So again, talk to the teacher and see if, and teachers who are listening, if you have any ideas for me, send them in. Shoot me an email, you know, let me know if you have any ideas for how you are able, what things that you find that you're able to do to support students that I haven't covered because I would love to learn those from you.
So, if your daughter is, you know, academically not being challenged and the work is too easy. I know some people that I've worked with have talked about how the teacher lets their child work on independent projects or brings in things to read after they're done the work that...
[8:16]
(I'm sorry, there seems to be a cut off in the script here)
everyone else is doing. I remember my son when he was in grade six; he was very advanced in math and his teacher let him do different math than the rest of the class was doing because he had learned that math a few years ago.
★ここまでの要約・日本語訳★

The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, hosted by Sarah Rosensweet, intends to provide tools, strategies, and support for stress-free parenting and encourage children to cooperate. The host, a mother of three, maintains a strong relationship with her kids citing peaceful parenting as the reason.

In one of the episodes, a listener, a single mother, asks for advice on how her eight-year-old daughter, who hates school and finds it too easy and boring, can be encouraged to attend school.

The host suggests the parent troubleshoot and understand why her child hates school by checking if she's having academic troubles, or if she has an undiagnosed learning disability or neurodivergence that may cause her difficulties in learning.

Other potential issues to be checked are: social problems like feeling left out or being bullied and whether the school environment suits the child's personality and learning style.

She also mentions that if the child finds the curriculum easy, the parent could discuss with the teacher about providing additional challenges or independent projects to maintain her interest.

サラ・ローゼンスイートがホストの「ピースフル・ペアレンティング・ポッドキャスト」は、ストレスフリーな育児と子供の協力を促すためのツール、戦略、サポートを提供することを目指しています。ホストのサラは、3人の子供の母親で、彼女が育てた"ピースフルな親子関係"を理由に、子供たちとの強い絆を維持しています。

あるエピソードでは、リスナーであるシングルマザーが、学校が苦手で、退屈で簡単すぎると感じている8歳の娘をどうやって学校に行くように励ますかについてアドバイスを求めました。

ホストは、親がトラブルシューティングを行い、子供が学校を嫌う理由を理解するよう提案します。そのためには、学業に困難を感じていないか、未診断の学習障害や神経発達の遅れがあって学習が困難になっていないかを確認する。

他に確認すべき可能性のある問題は、孤立感を感じたり、いじめられたりしていないかという社会的問題や、学校の環境が子供の性格や学習スタイルに適しているかなどです。

また、子供がカリキュラムを簡単に感じる場合、親は教師と話し合って、子供の興味を保つために追加の課題や独立したプロジェクトを提供できないかを検討すべきです。

★ここまでの特徴的な固有名詞・英単語・英語表現★
【固有名詞】

Sarah Rosenmuth（サラ・ローゼンムース）

Peaceful Parenting Podcast（ピースフル・ペアレンティング・ポッドキャスト）

Sarah Rosensweet（サラ・ローゼンスウィート）

Grade 3（3年生）

【英単語】

cheerleader（応援団）

struggles（闘争）

unicorns（ユニコーン）

insight（洞察）

sacrifice（犠牲）

breeze（そよ風）

undiagnosed（未診断の）

dyslexia（失読症）

【英語フレーズ】

welcome to（ようこそ）

excited to be here（ここにいるのが嬉しい）

dive into（深く潜り込む）

look at（見る）

makes learning difficult（学習を困難にする）

hard position to be in（立場が困難である）

a child suffering（苦しむ子供）

少し詳しい英語表現解説記事はこちら。
ポッドキャストで英語学習：When Your Kid Hates School (Peaceful Parenting Podcast) 1/3 - さんだーさんだ！（ブログ版）
[8:17] So, for your daughter, how can you work with her and the teacher to maybe make school a little bit more interesting and not so easy for her? Because as I said, at any end of the continuum for whether a child needs more support or less support or more challenge or less challenge, ideally their needs should be met. And that includes kids who are at the end of the spectrum where school is easy for them, and they get bored easily. We don't want anyone to be bored, right? If after doing this troubleshooting and investigation, you realize your child does have some academic challenges or the teacher thinks they might, hopefully, you can pursue an evaluation through your school, if possible, and get some support for your child around that.
Maybe that's sort of obvious, but if you do find that you think they may have, you know, some ADHD or learning disability that's getting in the way of them being successful at school, hopefully, you can address that. If you do find that there are some social problems happening, that
[9:17] they don't have any friends, one thing that I found teachers were often willing to do, was do a little bit of matchmaking in the classroom. Maybe if there's a project and the teacher thinks there's another child in the class that they might, you know, be a possible friend, they could put- the teacher could put them together. And I don't mean to lean too heavily on teachers but often they are really good observers of kids in the classroom and may have some ideas for you. Because teachers really want kids to do the best they can also and to be happy in the classroom. And it could be also that your child needs a little bit of help in that social skill learning. I know there are lots of books that you can access about making friends and being a friend.
And some kids are really naturals at that and other kids need to be explicitly taught some social skills like how to join in on play, and how to be a good friend and what to look for in a friend. So those are some things that you could really work on if you do find that there are challenges in either of those areas.
[10:18] I think another thing that I want to mention is sometimes kids just like to be at home and they're homebodies. So I have two suggestions for that. It sounds like your daughter, you know, is really attached to you and loves being at home. So two things that I think could be helpful in that area. One is if this is at all possible, and I know this might not be possible for all working parents but if it's at all possible, one thing that we found worked so well with my middle son, you may have heard me mention this before, he really put up a fuss about going to school starting in kindergarten. And so we worked out a deal that if he went to school without a fuss, of course, he could be unhappy about it but he couldn't refuse and kick, and scream, and say he wasn't going, he could have one home day every month.
And if he had, you know, so he could take a day off and he could stay home with me. And that's why I said this might not work for all parents if you're working and you can't take a day off. Maybe it could be an afternoon, but he had his home day every month. That was the deal that if he went to school willingly, he could take off a day, any day
[11:19] he wanted. And that actually continued pretty sure through grade five or six that he had a home day every month that he could just stay home. And I just told his teachers, he's taking his home day, mental health day today cause he just, you know, needed that. And that really helped him to be able to go to school every day. So that's something you might want to consider.
Another thing that you can consider which is a daily practice is something that's called bridging the separation. So rather than trying to get your daughter excited about what's going to happen at school, talk to her about when you're gonna see each other again. Cause it may be just saying goodbye to you is hard and really let her know, I know you don't wanna go darling. Of course, you know, lots of empathy we always give lots of empathy when our kid's upset about anything.
I know you don't want to go to school. at the same time remember at the same time not but because butter raises all the empathy you just said at the same time I need to go to work and your job is going to school and you need to go to school you know what though when I pick you up at four or whatever time you're going to see her again have something for her to look forward to that's bridging the distance between when you're going to
[12:22] be when you say goodbye and when you're going to be together again that's something I learned from Deborah mcnamara. So think about how can you bridge that separation. How can you build a bridge between the times you're going to be together again, over the time where you're going to be separated.
Something to look forward to. Something you're going to do together. Really that just that connection piece. How can you make her feel confident in your connection that you're going to see her at four at the end of the day. So those are two things that might help with that, not wanting to go to school a little bit. The thing that I haven't mentioned is anxiety. Very often anxiety, and even if the child isn't aware that it's anxiety, anxiety can be behind not wanting to go to school, and I often hear it's boring. I don't want to go because it's boring and you did say that. Your daughter said it was boring. We don't know if it's boring because she's not being challenged. We don't know if it's boring because she doesn't have a strong social network, but boring is sometimes code word for it makes me
[13:22] feel anxious. So I'm not gonna get a lot into anxiety in this podcast because I really want to keep it focused on sort of troubleshooting when kids don't want to go to school but anxiety is often a reason why kids don't want to go to school. This is the thing though, if it was anxiety I'm fairly certain that you would see it showing up in other areas besides just not wanting to go to school.
Are there other things that your daughter avoids or that make her feel anxious? Does she sleep alone? Will she go to the bathroom by herself? Does she show separation anxiety in any other areas? Those are the kinds of things you want to look at. Let's look at the full, big picture. If you don't see anxiety in any area and she just said she hates school, I would think that it's one of the things that I've already talked about.
But if you do say, oh yeah, she won't go to the bathroom by herself, then I think it could be a strong possibility that it's anxiety. A really really great place to start with anxiety, if you think that's what it is, is to go to a
[14:24] blog post that I wrote. If you google my name, Sarah Rosenzweig and anxiety you will get it. It's called, How My Daughter Learned to Sleep Alone Again, or something like that. And it's a really good overview of the approach that I follow and teach about anxiety that I learned from Lynn Lions. Lynn Lions who's been a multi-time, I think three-time guest on the podcast, so you all are probably familiar with her. Her book Anxious Kids Anxious Parents is a really great place to start.
After you've read it, I've got a link to it actually in that blog post we'll also link to anxious kids, anxious parents in the show notes but if it's anxiety then you've got a project and that project is going to be teaching her about her brain, how anxiety works, and coaching her to be able to tell herself that it's a false alarm. So that could be what's going on and it's often what's going on when kids don't want to go to school.
So check out the blog post, check out the book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. We've linked it in show notes it's also in the blogpost. If you go to the blogpost there's also a cheat sheet that you can download that has those sort of big ideas about helping kids who are anxious. So again just
[15:28] we'll link to it but you can google Sarah Rosenzweet and anxiety and you'll get it. I hope that was helpful dear listener and I hope you'll let me know after you listen to this if you were able to get any clarity on perhaps why your daughter doesn't want to go to school and hopefully find something that I suggested that helped with her not wanting to go to school.
★ここまでの要約・日本語訳★

The speaker is discussing strategies on how parents can collaborate with teachers to make school more engaging and supportive for their child, particularly if the child is finding school too easy or becomes easily bored.

ある子供が学校を面白くしたり、サポートを受けやすくするために、保護者が教師とどのように協力できるかについて、話し手は戦略を議論しています。特に、子供が学校をあまりにも簡単に感じたり、簡単に退屈になったりする場合についてです。

They also suggest having teachers help with social dynamics in class, for example, by pairing students for projects to facilitate friendship buffs, and point out that some children may need explicit teaching of social skills.

また、教師がクラス内の社会的ダイナミクスを助けることも提案しています。例えば、友人関係を促進するために、生徒をプロジェクトにペアにするなどしています。また、一部の子どもたちは社会的スキルの明示的な指導を必要とするかもしれないことを指摘しています。

The speaker encourages some flexibility in school attendance, citing a practice used with their own child like granting a home day every month as emotional support.

話し手は、自身の子どもに毎月のホームデーを許可するなどの実践を引用し、学校への出席に一部柔軟性を推奨しています。

They also talk about 'bridging the separation', where parents provide something for the child to look forward to after school or during their separation, to strengthen the parent-child connection.

また、「分離の架け橋」について話しており、親が学校後や分離中に子供が楽しみにすることを提供し、親子のつながりを強化することについて述べています。

The speaker concludes by discussing how anxiety can lead children to avoid school and provides resources like books and blog posts for parents to better understand and address this situation.

話し手は、不安が子供たちに学校を避けさせる原因になりうることについて議論し、親がこの状況をより理解し対処するためのリソース（書籍やブログ記事など）を提供して結論付けています。
★ここまでの特徴的な固有名詞・英単語・英語表現★
【固有名詞】

Sarah Rosenzweig (サラ・ローゼンズウィーグ)

Lynn Lions (リン・ライオンズ)

Deborah Mcnamara (デボラ・マクナマラ)

【英単語】

continuum（連続体）

spectrum（スペクトラム、範囲）

tutoring（チュータリング、個別指導)

challenge（挑戦）

matchmaking（お見合い、マッチング）

bridging（橋渡し）

separation（分離、別れ）

connection（接続）

anxiety（不安）

【英語フレーズ】

work with（と協力する）

be successful at（〜で成功する）

lean too heavily on（〜に頼りすぎる）

put up a fuss（騒ぎ立てる）

take a day off（一日休む）

look forward to（楽しみに待つ）

build a bridge（架け橋を作る）

behind not wanting to（〜しないことの背後に）

少し詳しい英語表現解説記事はこちら。
ポッドキャストで英語学習：When Your Kid Hates School (Peaceful Parenting Podcast) 2/3 - さんだーさんだ！（ブログ版）

"It's something that's really common. I hear this a lot from parents about kids not wanting to go to school and it's too bad! It's something I can't relate to because I loved school when I was a kid. I'm not sure if kids have changed or school has changed, and I know there's just, especially since the pandemic, there's been a lot of pressure on teachers and you know the kids have been hard having a hard time. So, I hope this helps you get back on track and anyone who's listening, I hope this also helps you get on track and that we have a great start to the, what are we going into, the 2023-2024 school year. And if this feels like it's daunting to do by yourself, don't forget, I'm here for you. As a parenting coach and my team of coaches,
[16:29]
we're all here for you. You can find us on my website, and we'll also put it in the show notes, you can find how to book a free consult and we can talk about if some personalized sort of loving, compassionate support might help you with the tools that you need if this hasn't been enough. So, thanks for listening everyone, I hope that answers your question, and that you're looking forward to making more of them. Thanks for watching. I hope you found this conversation insightful and exactly what you needed in this moment. Be sure to subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform, and leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Remember that I'm rooting for you. I see you out there, showing up for your kids and doing the best you can, sending hugs over the airwaves today. Hang in there. You've got this."
★ここまでの要約・日本語訳★

The speaker acknowledges the common issue of children not wanting to go to school, citing factors such as recent pressures from a pandemic.

The speaker offers support and encouragement for parents or caregivers who are facing these challenges with their children.

The speaker is a professional parenting coach and offers services such as individual consultations found through their website.

The speaker encourages listeners to engage more with the content, such as leaving ratings and subscribing, suggesting that their advice can assist in current and future parenting challenges.

The speaker ends the program on a compassionate note, expressing support and understanding for the difficulties parents or caregivers may be facing.

スピーカーは、子供が学校に行きたがらないという一般的な問題について認識し、パンデミックからの最近のプレッシャーなどの要因を挙げています。

スピーカーは、これらの子供たちとの難題に直面している親や介護者に対して、サポートと励ましを提供しています。

スピーカーはプロの育児コーチであり、彼らのウェブサイトから見つけることができる個別のコンサルティングなどのサービスを提供しています。

スピーカーは、リスナーにより多くのコンテンツに参加するよう奨励し、評価を残したり購読したりすることで、現在および将来の育児の課題に役立つアドバイスを提供できることを示唆しています。

スピーカーはプログラムを慈悲深いノートで終え、親や介護者が直面しているかもしれない困難に対する支持と理解を表現しています。

★ここまでの特徴的な固有名詞・英単語・英語表現★
【固有名詞】

Apple Podcasts（アップルポッドキャスト）

【英単語】

common（一般的な）

parents（親）

school（学校）

pressure（圧力）

pandemic（パンデミック）

daunting（気が遠くなるような）

compassionate（思いやりのある）

insightful（洞察力のある）

consult（相談）

【英語フレーズ】

get back on track（立ち直る）

we have a great start（素晴らしいスタートを切る）

You can find us（私たちは見つけられます）

book a free consult（無料の相談を予約する）

Thanks for listening（ご視聴ありがとうございます）

Thanks for watching（ご視聴いただきありがとうございます）

Be sure to subscribe to the show（番組の購読を必ずお願いします）

leave us a rating and review（私たちに評価とレビューを残してください）

I'm rooting for you（私はあなたを応援しています）

Hang in there（諦めずに頑張ってください）

You've got this（あなたならできる）

少し詳しい英語表現解説記事はこちら。
ポッドキャストで英語学習：When Your Kid Hates School (Peaceful Parenting Podcast) 3/3 - さんだーさんだ！（ブログ版）